1) I couldn’t help overhearing on TS some disputes, won’t go into details, but it seems generally there is suspicion and dislike towards memebers who come on TS but don’t say much. I know I am a memeber who comes on TS and doesn’t say much. I want to make it very clear: I have no issues with anybody on the server, I am not trying to be nasty or ignorant. I just have very, very, phenomenally bad social skills. As in, sometimes I really don’t know what anybody is talking about because I don’t understand the language complexities and I can’t read between the lines. Sometimes to me some conversations sound like random words being spoken. Literally just random words, I can’t even discern a single intelligible phrase or sentence and I don’t understand how or why one word connects to the next. Before I know it an entire conversation has passed by and I’m the only one who felt like I would have understood it just as well if it were being spoken in Urdu (I don’t know any Urdu). I feel like I do have some very real issues communicating and making connections with people. That is entirely on me, and not something I want to make other people feel uncomfortable about by being ignorant in TS. The best thing I can do is just be very clear about it now, even if it is a bit embarrassing. You have all been nice to me and I harbour no ill feelings towards anybody, if it comes across that I’m not being nice… I dunno, maybe just remind me that I’m not saying much as I need the practice and to learn what is an appropriate silence and what isn’t. I can also sometimes just get engrossed in the game and forget.
2) I understand now also, again going by TS conversations that it seems a bit messed up for members to disappear with no explanation and then just come back as if nothing ever happened… I know I’m guilty of this too. I only had few friends growing up and never had experiences to learn about keeping in touch and stuff (my friends and I can go months or years without seeing each other and none of us seem to care, I thought that was normal) so I never really learned that it was messed up or wrong until coming on JD, and then I started noticing it elsewhere after that. Should I make more of an effort to keep in touch, or should I just kind of give a quick explanation when I come back after an absence? As for why I’m absent a lot: I get distracted with projects sometimes, other times I feel ill. Lately there have been a lot of cumulating stresses and I haven’t really had anybody to talk to about it, so that also kind of contributes to me not wanting to come on TS just in case I start spilling my guts worse than I’m doing here.
Okay… that was meant to be purely informational, but I still let my emotions get in the way. So, here’s a video of a baby playing with a lightsaber to cleanse your mental pallet!
Oh and BTW, on the Direwolf pack server since I haven’t been on you can take some of the resources in my chests as they’re just sitting there not being used. Please leave me some though, don’t take the last stack of a thing.
It’s all about perspective, I suppose. I’ve only ever seen true suspicion/skepticism directed towards those who refuse to join teamspeak entirely, or who always join muted, and even then a lot of it is in jest. There have been a few issues lately with people ruffling each others feathers (as I’m sure you’ve noticed) but don’t let that slow you down.
As for the people coming and going, you could always try connecting with some server members via your preferred social media, just so they know you’re not dead when you’re gone ( 😛 ), and you and they can keep up with what the other is doing, even if only in a very marginal way. Many of the members of the server, particularly the teamspeak regulars, are friends on facebook or follow each other on instagram, and if this is something you’d be comfortable with, I’d encourage you to try it too.
First of all. OMG that VIDEO was so CUTE! Hahahaha
I feel bad about the teamspeak thing and I need you to realize that we have no issues with you at all being quiet on teamspeak. I’m probably the most quiet person on teamspeak to be honest. There was an issue with a certain individual (not yourself) that would sandbag on teamspeak then spread rumors so I had to try to enforce a no-sandbagging rule on teamspeak. That person is no longer with the server, and so there should no longer be a no-sandbagging rule. Please let me know if you still have a concern about this.
In regards to your other concern about people that leave the server for a while and come back. You are correct. This is the nature of a Minecraft server. Also it is the reason why we don’t do world resets. People know that if they get burnt out on Minecraft, they can leave for a while then return with all their things the way they left them. And I am 100% okay with people leaving and returning whenever they feel like it. The only risk is when they return they may not be whitelisted if they are not a donor or have 200+ hours.
The Direwolf server is fun. I have a couple more mods that I’d like to try out, but I’m kind of at a stopping point. I blew up my base (after taking everything out) so that I could redo it. But right now it looks really ugly and I need to clean it up a tad.
0Beechlgz, I think I know something about what you described. It took me years of trials end errors how to deal with similar things and I can’t say I mastered it. I wish you to find your own way but I think the most important thing in “my way”, was to accept my own personality and not letting people to change it much.
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